[Excerpts from The Incarnation of Love, Avatar Adi Da’s “Radical” Spiritual Wisdom and Practical Instruction on self-Transcending Love and Service in All Relationships]
AVATAR ADI DA SAMRAJ: The true test and proof of a human being is not whether or not he or she can attain mystical experiences, or “out-of-body” experiences or even sophisticated scientific knowledge and power over the world. The true test is whether or not any individual human being will exist as love and persist as love, transcending himself or herself in the midst of all experience and knowledge, even when all experience and knowledge press upon the individual to be less than love.
Avatar Adi Da, 2000
Forget all things in present Happiness, and so forgive the universe for all its playful changes. Always love one another, and so forgive one another for appearing, for changing, and for passing out of present sight. So be it.
—Avatar Adi Da Samraj
Once an other Is Found, the ego-“I” Clings To the other, At First pleasurably, and Then Aggressively. The ego-“I” Depends On the other For Happiness, and Over time, the ego-“I” Makes Greater and Greater Demands On the other For Fulfillment Of itself (In all of its desires). Often, in time, the other Becomes Depressed and Exhausted By This Demand (and Thus Leaves, or Dies). Just as Likely, the ego-“I” Discovers, Over time, That the other Cannot or Will Not Satisfy The Absolute Demand For attention and Consolation. In That Case, the ego-“I” Feels Betrayed, and the ego-“I” Begins the Strategy Of Punishing, Rejecting, and Abandoning the other.
Every conditionally Manifested being Has (In time) Often Been The Proposed Victim Of This Strategy Of Separate and Separative selves. Even More, Until The Heart Gives Way To Divine Love-Bliss, every conditionally living being Is The Original Genius and Grand Performer Of This Strategy Of Separate and Separate selves. It Is The Strategy Of Narcissus, and It Is The Dreadful Work Of all conditionally living beings who Are Not Awake To The Truth Beyond the ego-“I”.
Hold on to no thing and no one, not even your apparently individual self. Be certain of no knowledge. Be the sacrifice of all conditions in every moment, and thus abide in Communion with the eternal Truth, wherein the root of your independence is eternally hidden and your common Identity is always already Revealed.
In this way you will affirm and participate in the necessarily eternal Existence in which you all appear: Surrender into Infinity with all your friends and hold on to no thing or condition that ever appears. Forget all things in present Happiness, and so forgive the universe for all its playful changes. Always love one another, and so forgive one another for appearing, for changing, and for passing out of present sight.
So be it.
In the Way of the Heart each one is responsible to bless all others. Therefore, as My devotee, bless everyone and everything with every action, every thought, and every breath. It is not possible to bless another by presuming a position of superiority for yourself or inferiority on the part of another. To bless another one must worship and acknowledge that one in his or her True Form, inhering in the Divine Reality, present as an expressive manifestation of the Divine Being.
Therefore, whatever your stage of life in the Way of the Heart, bless all others in feeling-Contemplation of Me, serve every being as the modification of the Divine Reality that I Reveal to you, acknowledge every being and condition in the “Brightness” of My Divine Company, and address everyone and everything in the same spirit in which you acknowledge Me. Only in this manner are you free in Satsang with Me, invoking and finding Me in, as, and through every being and condition.
Be My devotee, in Communion with Me. See all in Communion with Me. Through feeling-Contemplation of Me, worship the Divine Being, Truth, and Reality in, as, and through everyone and everything. Never be too proud to do this worship. Only this expresses true Realization.
For those who Are Committed To Love…Even Rejection By others Is Received and Accepted As A Wound, Not An Insult. Even The Heart-Necessity To Love and To Be Loved Is A Wound. Even The Fullest Realization Of Love Is A Wound That Never Heals.
You are mortal, and entirely subject to the Mercy of the Divine. You own nothing, and you know nothing. No technique of meditation leads to the Divine Being, and there is nothing to be believed that is the Truth. Rather, you must be touched in your feeling by the unspeakable suffering of this world and return everything to the Self-Existing and Self-Radiant Divine Person.
No individual should live as the superior, or the inferior, or even the equal, of all others. Rather, each should live as the intimate servant of others through love.
You must love one another, have compassion for your limitations and the limitations of others, and forget about the fact that you are not perfect, and neither is anyone else.
Renunciation in the Way of the Heart is a commitment to ecstasy. Renunciates are about ecstasy, not dried-up, conventional lawfulness.
You may fantasize that Spiritual life is about living in caves, wearing your robes, and renouncing everything. Such a notion is just a dream. It is nonsense. True renunciation is here, in the body, suffering it, becoming Illumined by submitting to be a human being. The practice of such true renunciation is the agony of self-knowledge and knowledge of another.
If you enter into this process of self-knowledge and knowledge of another, it will break your heart. It did Mine! Yet as dreadful as it is, it is the best thing I ever did. The best thing that could possibly happen to you is that you become a raw nerve-end, a broken heart, unconsolable, with sorrow on your face—and ecstasy as well, no longer a conventional man or woman, no longer able to put on the social false face—incapable of it, with no argument, no anger, no feeling rejected, you responsible and you dying, and no absolutes coming to you through the bodies of others.
Everything you console yourself with is a lie. When you get down to the bottom of it, broken-hearted in your distress, maybe you will discover what “in love” is. It is not about what you must do. It is about transcending yourself, about not fulfilling yourself. And it is not amusing. It is passionate and it is terrible.
In the world, the beloved dies—or appears to die. Whatever is desired or loved that is merely conditional will inevitably die, or pass away and change. One who observes this with true seriousness realizes that this Lesson of life requires that you find What is Deathless in others. True Love is devoted and submitted and attached and conformed to the Undying Beloved. This principle, in brief, characterizes the Way of the Heart.
On Love and Service
by Avatar Adi Da Samraj